Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts

Monday, September 13, 2010

The Rewards are There

Our family is busy.  We don’t set out to be the busiest and most involved family on the block, and I’m sure there are other families out there who’s schedules don’t fit on a 8 ½ x 11 refrigerator calendar like ours does, but we have things going on, well, almost everyday.  This weekend for example, was one of non-stop activities. We had baseball practice, a school dance, a baseball game, two soccer games, friends over, nerf gun wars, volunteering, a cub scout service project, studying for a science test, a sleep-over, craft room painting, lawn mowing, weed pulling and still managed to fit in a 30 minute nap in there. Yeah me!  Needless to say, I’m a little slow this morning and don’t have quite the energy I was hoping to have.

In spite of our schedule though, we still have a meal or two together in there, play a round of Apples to Apples before bed and have two days a week that are completely blank on the calendar! It seems like a lot some days and there are days it’s really just too much to be quite honest.  But the rewards are there.

On Saturday, I took my oldest home in between my youngest son’s soccer games.  He hadn’t been home since nine in the morning and just wanted to be home for a bit before he headed to volunteer at the Y.  On the drive home, he was a little quiet, then out of the blue said, “You know, Mom, I pretty much love baseball and think it’s my favorite sport now.  I had a really good game today.”  I quickly corrected him and told him he had a great game today. He had two hits, (a single and a double), stole four bases, pitched 46 great pitches (not that I was counting), threw a guy out at first and smiled the entire game.   All the driving back and forth to practice, going early for the games, was suddenly not such a big deal.  The confidence in himself was strong and it made me feel great knowing that.  The reward was there.

With him home for a little bit, I drove back to the field and thanked Pam for watching my youngest while I was gone and prepared for round two of soccer.  The team was huddled for a cheer, when the coach realized we had twelve players and they only had five.  She quickly asked for volunteers to play on the other team to help even up the numbers and avoid having seven of our players sit out.  My son’s arm went straight up and volunteered to play for the Vikings instead of the Titans.  I was so proud of him.  He realized it wasn’t a big deal and it could be fun to play against his teammates.   

Again, in the car on the way home, the discussion is always about the “action” of the game. Not only did he score a goal, but played goalie for the first time and had a blast. My little guy was all smiles and said that was the most fun he’s had playing in a long time.   I told him how proud I was of him volunteering and he just smiled. He knew he had done a good thing and was proud of himself for doing so.  The reward was there. 

Even though the weekend was packed with driving here and driving there, in the end, everyone was happy doing what they enjoyed and both looked forward to their next game. So, perhaps being busy isn’t such a bad thing.  As long as the smiles are there, then I’m still ready and eager to chauffer them to every meeting, to every game, to every friend’s house, to 7-11 for sunflower seeds, to the Y to volunteer and to every  school dance to do the chicken dance with friends.  The rewards are there.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

His Confidence is Showing

Do you remember a few weeks ago when I bought my youngest son a Yoda shirt?  If you don’t, you can read about it here.  Well…..they say a picture is worth a 1000 words.   This is my son watching tv before school this morning.  



I was shocked, but didn't dare say ONE word.   Sometimes, we just have to let them come into their own on their own.   Should I tell him that his confidence is showing?  


Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Not Gonna Happen

When you’re 9 years old, playing with Legos is still cool. When you’re 9 years old, having the occasional stuffed animal in view when friends are over is still ok.  When you’re 9 years old, apparently it is NOT cool or ok to wear anything Star Wars.  I thought I was being a “with it” mom when I bought the shirt, but apparently I was mistaken.


My son informed me in a very plain English sort of way, “I am NOT going to wear that.  All my friends will laugh AT me, not WITH me.  I am NOT wearing that no matter what. Not gonna happen.”  

There is a fine line, a very fine line, at 9 years old of what is perceived as “cool” in the 4th grade and what is “nerdy”.  I tried to explain that it’s the trend of the season and there were 30 different types to choose from.  They had the Superman logo, Batman cartoon “POW/BAM” shirts, Darth Vader light sabers and many more to choose from. He didn't care.  He was not about to be caught dead or alive in it.   Not gonna happen.

The confidence to stand out in a crowd and be you must come a little later on; maybe 6th grade, but definitely not 4th grade; at least not for my 4th grader.  My 13 (very soon to be 14 year old) son however, thought it was very cool and wants me to just exchange it for his size and not return it, which I am on my way to do as soon as I finish this.  For him, the line no longer exists.  It’s how you wear it and the confidence you have in yourself.  He got it.  To him I was the "with it" mom I was trying so hard to be.  My 9 year old just thought I was being mean and was more or less asking him to wear a pink Barbie shirt with ruffles on it.

Maybe by the end of the school year, he'll be willing to take a bit more of a risk.  Unlikely, but there's always hope, right? For now though, I’m off to get a few more stripes and solids for his closet.  Definitely won’t be coming home with any Yoda shirts anytime soon.  Not gonna happen.


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